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The Wedding of Katy and
Stu at Tikitano,
September 2007
with thanks to
www.jeremystandley.com
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IMPORTANT NOTICE - I live and work from the Scottish Borders, near Edinburgh. Please click here. I am also available for wedding blessing cermeonies in Spain during the months of June and September each year.
1st to 30th June Spain
1st to 30th September Spain
FEES .Please click Fees or use the menu to the left to learn of the two types of ceremony which I offer - bespoke and standard.
AVAILABILITY - to check my availability, please first click on the calendar on my home page
If you are looking for a celebrant who will offer you flexibilty and choice in how your marriage blessing ceremony will be then you have come to the right place. I uniquely tailor my ceremonies to each couple's specific wishes and don't use standard time worn ceremonies. Only in Scotland do I perform the Civil Ceremony under licence from the Registrar General; in Spain I offer only marriage blessing ceremonies.
Many denominational Ministers, Priests, and other celebrants may offer you little choice or say in the design of what is probably the most important ceremony in your life.
So if you are looking for a celebrant who will listen to your ideas and use these to create the ceremony of your choice, then please contact me.
It is important that you set out to plan for something that fits your needs and wishes - and not settle for second best. For example you may wish to have a ceremony which is more spiritual, religious, inter-faith, or indeed humanist (ie no mention of religion) in nature and you may be looking for something that looks quite traditional or something more informal and contemporary. I work with you to create what you desire.
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When you book your bespoke ceremony with me, you will receive:
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An introductory letter summarising the range of possibilities for your ceremony and how to confirm your booking
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A questionnaire, outlining all the information I will need from you to help me design a ceremony specific to your wishes
Other complimentary documents are also available after you have confirmed your booking; these are for bespoke ceremonies only.
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A selection of vows and suggestions on how to create your own
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A selection of readings
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Information on different rituals used by couples
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Tips on speaking in public - too many ceremonies in my view are spoiled by speakers who cannot be heard!
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Marriage blessing etiquette
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A planning rundown for your ceremony - things to think about and put in place
Many couples increasingly choose to have a very small, private legal ceremony in a registrar's office (or equivalent) and later the same day or a few days later, a wedding blessing ceremony which to them and their guests is the moment to really celebrate and bless their union without restriction often placed by traditional priests and ministers.
Many feel uncomfortable with traditional approaches to marriage and seek more flexibilty to take account of their wishes and circumstances.
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Registry Office weddings are often time-bound and allow very little opportunity for creativity and freedom of expression. They also do not allow any mention of anything religious or spiritual, nor readings nor rituals.
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Church weddings often conform to quite a rigid pattern, usually only allowing their own religion to be mentioned, and many priests and ministers are reluctant to marry anyone other than regular church-goers. They are also quite restrictive when it comes to which hymns, songs, and readings you may choose, if allowing them at all.
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There are those couples also who do not wish to or cannot commit to a legal ceremony but somehow want their relationship honoured and blessed in front of family and friends.
Whatever your situation, it would be my great pleasure to help you create the ceremony that is just right for you that honours your background, your religion and faith if any, your beliefs and values and circumstances.
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IMPORTANT
Please note that from 2011 you may be offered one of our associate ministers.
If you want to book me as your celebrant, please check my availability BEFORE you book the hotel, flights, and other requirements.
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In Scotland, I offer a full legal marriage ceremony (on licence from the Registrar General for Scotland.) I also offer marriage / relationship blessing ceremonies for those who complete the legal element elsewhere or who do not wish a legal ceremony. for a legal ceemony you the couple must still give notice to the registrar in the area in which you wish your ceremony to be held. I am not allowed to do that for you (ie apply for your permission to marry.) See my Scottish based website www.listentoyourheart.co.uk
In Spain - With regard to Spain, only catholic and civil weddings are accepted as valid under Spanish Law, and recognized as such in the rest of Europe and USA. Click here for a list of documents needed to marry legally in Spain. I strongly encourage my clients who wish to marry in Spain, most of whom are from different European countries, Canada, Australia, New Zealand, and the USA, to have their legal/civil ceremony conducted in their own country or in the case of British people there is also the option of the civil ceremony in Gibraltar (please allow several months notice.) These Civil Ceremonies usually last between five and ten minutes but are legal ceremonies only and do not allow any religious or spiritual content or flexibility.
If you wish a ceremony in Spain then a bespoke Wedding Blessing is what I offer. This can be held anywhere of your choosing; on beaches, in parks, in hotels, private villas, and with agreement, in some churches. I work closely with you to determine the style, form and content of the blessing ceremony as this is a chance for you to really create a ceremony that is truly memorable and unique.flexibility.
In 2012 I offer ceremonies in Spain only in the following areas - Estepona, Marbella, Mijas, Malaga, and during June and September.
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For some, I find they want something that looks like a traditional wedding of their own faith, others wish something less religious and more spiritual and they perhaps would include readings, songs, dance, poetry, from various religious or spiritual background.
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SAME GENDER COUPLES
Same gender couples in the UK can have their partnership legally recognised. For more information go to http://www.gro.gov.uk/
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Others ask me to prepare a ceremony that has no religious or spiritual aspect to it; they may have a wish for a more earth oriented or humanitarian approach.
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In Spain same gender couples can get married in a legal ceremony but which carries no religious or spiritual context.
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The important thing is that we work well together to create the ceremony that YOU want, not one that someone else tells you to have. Click here for a sample outline of a marriage blessing ceremony.
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I offer such couples a beautiful blessing ceremony according to their wishes. E-mail me here.
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For couples marrying legally in Spain you may want to consider the use of a wedding planner to help you through the maze of paperwork and also organise every detail of your special day. For blessing ceremonies in Spain, most couples in my experience seem to be able to arrange all that is required by making one or two visits and then dealing with providers by e-mail and phone.
You and I don't have to meet before hand; very often geography precludes this especially since most couples live far away from my hometown, mostly in other countries. If you wish to visit with me, in my hometown of Galashiels or in Edinburgh (see fees page), then that can be arranged. However the whole blessing ceremony can be arranged between us by e-mail and telephone.
Please go to my website calendar to check to see if the date you have in mind is available.
Or submit your details to confirm my availability
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